What to Do if You Hate Your Engagement Ring

We all know that getting engaged isn’t all about the ring, but lots of girls come off the high of his perfect proposal and realize hat the ring before them is not one they can bare to welcome on their ring finger for the rest of their lives. If your ring isn’t absolutely perfect in your eyes then we have a problem.


I’m sure that your fiancé has gifted  you with some unflattering clothes or pair of running shoes that you weren’t thrilled about- and you would probably speak up or just put on a happy face and reluctantly wear them. However,  with a less than perfect engagement ring it’s incredibly more complicated. Your man probably put tons of though and money into the ring he chose for you. The last thing you want to do is hurt his feelings, here’s what to do if you hate your engagement ring.


IF YOU HATE THE SETTING: You like vintage designs and the ring he picked is missing the romance you’d dreamed of since you were a little girl, Or you were hoping for something modern and your new bling has tons of curlicues. YOU SAY: “I adore how sparkly my new ring is, but the more I wear it, the more I realize the setting doesn’t really match my style. Would you mind terribly if we kept the stone and picked a new setting together?”


IF YOU HATE THE STONE: Remember when Carrie found an engagement ring from Aiden and the diamond was {cringe } pear-shaped? There’s nothing wrong with a pear-shaped diamond, if that’s what you’re dreaming of, but what if the stone your guy picked just isn’t? YOU SAY: “I’m obsessed with my engagement ring, but I feel like the diamond isn’t doing the setting justice. I feel like an emerald-cut diamond [or whatever] would look even prettier. Could we stop by the jeweler and look at different diamonds together?”

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IF YOU HATE THE METAL: You wanted rose gold and your groom picked white. Or you were hoping for platinum and he chose yellow gold. This is actually a pretty easy conversation, especially if your existing jewelry is in the metal you like best.  YOU SAY:  “I adore my engagement ring, but I feel like the metal doesn’t quite match my other jewelry [or: my skin tone]. Since I’ll be wearing it forever, I’d love to change that one little detail, if you don’t mind.”

IF YOU HATE THE WHOLE THING YOU SAY: It’s just ALL WRONG. {And no, thinking that doesn’t make you a bad person! } YOU SAY:  “I noticed your mother’s [or: my best friend’s, my coworker’s] engagement ring while we were at brunch yesterday, and now I feel like a ring that’s similar to hers might be more my style. I love you, and I love THIS ring because you picked it out for me. I just plan on wearing my engagement ring forever, so I was hoping we could check out some more timeless styles together.”


Honesty is always the best policy, but I don’t think brutal honesty is going to serve you well in any of these scenarios. Let your guy down easy—and let him know if your new ring is going to cost considerably more, that you’d love to chip in for the difference.